Keeping in touch-working on the personal part of your life
Experience is a great teacher and I had a classic example of this once again today. I have the ability and interest to keep in touch with many people, but there are times when the details slip away and I get caught by surprise from something I learn. Here is how this manifested itself this time.
A long-time friend reached out to me recently to let me know that she had referred me to some potential work. I responded and learned that she had recently lost her spouse to an untimely death. I don’t know how I could have known sooner, but it made me sad to learn of this and not be able to do something sooner.
The personal part of your life is just as important, and at many times the most important, of the three legs of your life as shown in the diagram below. I can also make a valid argument for the spiritual leg being as important, if not more important, but I addressed that to some degree in an earlier post this week.
The personal aspect of our life branches into the other two legs quite often and a strong personal leg will compensate in many ways for weaker spiritual and professional components to our life. I would even venture to say that those with strong personal relationship, with family and friends especially, have some of the best spiritual and professional lives.
I have a tendency to over communicate in electronic media versus face to face and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Email and Facebook can be great catalysts for keeping in touch, but that personal conversation or phone call (Skype) can also help strengthen a relationship that you find to be of great value.
My mother in law is a wise woman who shares many thoughts with me. One of her wisest is the following:
“The days are long, but the years are short.”
The longer I live, the more I come to agree and support this assertion on her part. We get so caught up in the day-to-day distractions that lengthen our day and tire us, but this only promotes looking ahead too much and not enjoying the moments we have, especially with friends and loved ones.
My encouragement to you today is to set aside some time just for catching up and listening. Go through your long list and find 2 or 3 people you might have lost touch with and get back in touch.
God has a unique way of guiding your path in this. You will be surprised to learn that the people you reach out and touch may have just been thinking of you as well.